Being emotionally sober takes self-discipline. For me, that meant not writing a blog in May or June. I gave myself permission to step back from online work, showing up only in small ways while I took a real holiday with friends and family. I hadn’t done that properly for years. Life called me to equalise, and I answered—through self-care and reconnection with the people I had dearly missed.
When you’ve lived through the kind of internal winters I have, it becomes a lifetime of becoming. The depth of emotional and spiritual healing unfolding in this season of my life is humbling. Through daily practices and a supportive, grounded community, I’ve been brought closer to peace than I ever imagined.
Life is completely different now. I no longer reach for something to numb or escape. That doesn’t mean life is always easy. But it does mean I’ve found ways to move through difficulty without collapsing into depression or spirals of doubt.
This is emotional sobriety: choosing presence, again and again. It means working with the thoughts, behaviours, and emotions that try to pull me off-centre. It means letting go of control, and resisting the urge to create stories around what I feel. I don’t float above pain. I breathe through it.
And when I do slip into old patterns, I meet myself with compassion—not shame. This is where breathwork truly helps me recalibrate.
There are still days I want to isolate or blame. But now I have tools. I walk. I garden. I speak honestly. I lie still. These small lifelines bring me home to myself.
Science tells us emotions last about 90 seconds in the body. It’s our resistance and mental loops that keep them stuck. So I let them pass. I feel them, breathe through them, and let them go.
Even being visible online is part of this sobriety. Showing up authentically is vulnerable. It’s messy. But at least it’s honest.
Self-development isn’t about fixing everything overnight. It’s slow, steady devotion. A quiet promise to show up a little differently each day. That’s how roots grow deep. That’s how healing becomes possible.
I’m still learning. I always will be. But I continue to choose presence over perfection. And for me, that’s the real freedom.
This is the kind of inner devotion we hold space for at our retreats where emotional sobriety isn’t a concept, but something you can feel in your body, your breath, your pace. One small moment at a time.
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